Does Your Husband or Partner Have ADHD? Tired of Broken Promises and Circular Arguments? I Know What Makes ADHD Husbands Tick.
- Derrick Hoard
- Oct 17, 2024
- 3 min read
Updated: Oct 30, 2024
I know you're tired of dealing with the same excuses, apologies, and justifications when it comes to your partner's lack of attention to household responsibilities. You've tried being nice. You've tried reminders. But the only thing that seems to work is when you get angry or act out of character. That's when they finally listen and do what you're asking. Then, you feel guilty because you vowed you'd never let anger be part of your relationship, maybe because you witnessed similar behavior in your own parents growing up.
And while it feels like your partner is at least trying—or at the very least, feels sorry for what they aren't doing—you’re tired of hearing, “It's because I have ADHD.”
On top of that, your relationship is starting to suffer. You feel more like their mother than their partner, and naturally, your sexual relationship has taken a hit. No wonder they complain about that too. It seems they can do what they enjoy but struggle when it comes to the things you need.
Here’s what you’re not hearing enough: You are doing the best you can (you are), and you’ve tried everything (you have). Now, let's try something different.
My Name is Derrick Hoard, and I Used to Be Your Partner....
I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist turned relationship coach, with almost a decade of experience helping individuals and couples navigate ADHD in relationships. More importantly, I used to be the man you're in a relationship with right now. I didn't "get it" until I got divorced. And now, I’ve dedicated my life to making sure others don’t have to face that same outcome.
You still care about your partner, even though they can be inconsiderate, and you’ve seen glimpses of hope. You’ve probably even thought about the cliche—how, once you leave, they’ll magically change, and some other woman will reap the benefits of all the hard work you put in. I know, because I was that guy.
But what if you didn’t have to leave for things to change?
Here’s What’s Really Going On
Yes, patriarchy has taught men they shouldn’t have to handle “women’s work,” like household chores and emotional labor. And while there are several reasons your partner won’t just “do the things you ask,” the main reason that shows up across all relationships is this: At some point, you started doing more, and they started doing less. Over time, the imbalance deepened.
There’s a pattern in your relationship that needs to be addressed. You’ve been doing your best, but you're tired of repeating yourself. You don’t need to keep talking—you need to do something different. But you don’t know what that is.
I do.
What I Offer: A Scientific, Measurable Approach to Changing Behavior
Quite simply, I speak “man.” After talking with you to understand what hasn’t been working, I’ll give you specific behavioral, emotional, and communication strategies tailored to your situation. These scripts will disrupt the unhealthy cycles in your relationship, leading to new behaviors.
In essence, I’ll teach you how to train him to be better. And my approach is based on science—observable, measurable, and most importantly, repeatable.
After Using My System, You Can Expect:
No more circular arguments. You won’t have to convince him why what you need matters.
No more guilt trips. You won’t feel the need to make him feel better when he’s let you down.
No more acting out of character. You’ll have a system in place, so you don’t need to rely on frustration to get things done.
No more micromanaging. You won’t have to remind him or double-check his work.
No more anxiety. You’ll have peace of mind knowing things will get done the first time you ask.
Why My Approach Works
Unlike other advice out there, I understand the nuances of male behavior and ADHD. My process blends my years of experience as both a therapist and a "child husband," giving you the insight, tools, and humor needed to create lasting change. With my guidance, we’ll break these patterns through weekly meetings and unlimited contact, ensuring you stay on track and see real progress.
Let’s Start the Journey—Free Consultation
This isn’t something that takes months or years to fix. Most of my clients see noticeable results within 4 to 7 sessions. We’ll focus on quick, measurable changes using a proven system.
Book a free consultation with me today, and I’ll demonstrate exactly how my approach works for your unique situation. It’s not about just identifying the problem—it’s about finding the right direction to solve it.
You don’t have to keep feeling like you’re parenting your partner. Let’s get you back to being partners again.
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